I was so far from sexy—not sexy as a chemo patient with one breast and no hair; there was not an ounce of seductress, a pinch of pretty, a cup of baby got back—nada. I was left in the gutter; no vacancy for slinky. Even now, two years later, I’m still working at getting sexy back. But I think it’s truly crucial to any recovery; we need to make our inner kitten purr to be truly healthy. But what does that mean? Do I need hair and all my body parts to be sexy? Nope. At my worst, I felt abandoned, misguided, my body had let me down—it wasn’t about my appearance. I was angry, and angry is definitely not sexy. To be sexy again, I had to get past the anger, pity, and hurt.
And my definition of sexy is likely a bit different from yours. I can still remember the first time I met sexy. I was in a college, and I met a woman with amazing sexiness. She wasn’t gorgeous or thin or rich. She was a middle aged woman who knew who she was. She lived her life in balance, and if she didn’t want to wear a bra, damn it, she didn’t! I learned from her that day that I wanted to be sexy…someday, but as an awkward 20 year old, I had a ways to go to find sexy.
Sexy definitely requires self-worth. You have to be able to love yourself up if you’re going to feel it. And I mean that in the most innocent way—truly. If you can’t look in the mirror and love the blemishes and lines and curves and what not—you can’t wake up your inner sex-pot. I started to feel sexy back when I found a belly-dancing-how-to program on television. And although I wouldn’t invite my dog to watch me learn belly dancing, the movement inspired sexiness. It was therapeutic—and that’s what I’m getting at… To be healthy, you gotta have some sexy.
If you’re wondering where your sexy went, it’s time to get it back. Where do you start? I would start by choosing something sexy for each of your senses. For smell, buy some incense or candles—then use them! I picked some up from the dollar store—the dollar store, folks! There is definitely something sexy about the musky, sensual smell of incense. For taste, try some exotic or tropical tasting tea. I recently picked up coconut chai, which was the perfect choice for me. The blend of spices reminds me of another place and time. For sound, find some ethereal, sweet music to listen to. For touch, invest in massage stones or massage oil. I bought some massage stones to give my husband a massage, and I ended up using them to meditate. I picked up some aromatherapy lotion to use to relax when I’m getting a bit uptight. For sight, find a mirror and strike a pose until you feel your sexy staring back at you! (A new outfit never hurt anyone, either) You’ve got it in you; I know it—so go on and find it… Check out my astore for ideas and easy links for getting your sexy back.
Or my Wii Fit page--although Wii Fit might not make you feel sexy right away, it's a fun way to start working toward better health.
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